I chose to write this post because I understand how damaging a negative work environment can be on someone who is trying their dam hardest to better themselves. It’s hard enough at the best of times to implement positive long lasting change in any area of your life. Without others giving you s*** for it too, because it’s not what others deem “normal” or the “trending” thing right now. Today we’re going to find your inner circle.
After working 7+ years in retail, I soon recognised my position was a dead end job. It had 0 motivating factors to offer and proceed to climb the greasy corporate pole to the top. No one had any real tangible goals or aspirations for their lives, or anything that drove them with passion, purpose or meaning. It was just a continuous cycle of eat, sleep, work, pay bills and repeat. However, there was one thing that never changed and was continuous throughout, my lack of motivation and drive. This was down to one main factor that none of us can get away from and have to deal with it if we want to achieve any goal we choose to set ourselves.
Tipping The Scales
Have you ever heard this quote? If not, you need to because this can and will change your life.
“You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”Jim Rohn
Now you have, here’s why you need to understand how to benefit from it. One of the best things that you can do to help set yourself up for successfully achieving your goals… Is to surround yourself with like-minded people who have already attained what it is you want. It’s that simple, immerse yourself in their wisdom and knowledge to help you attain what it is you want.
One of the cold hard truths is that environment dictates performance. If you choose to surround yourself with people who’re no good for you and bring you down, guess where you’re going? Down with them. Just spending an hour a week with someone who makes you feel terrible will compound over time and could grow into a much bigger issue in the long run. The easiest way to combat this is to begin shedding those negative people from your life. If someone doesn’t help you to grow, challenge and support you or add to you in another way that helps you to raise your bar, then consider loosing that connection. It sounds brutal but if what you plan to do with your life means that much to you then don’t be afraid to take yourself seriously and find better company.
Many people may feel selfish or even terrible for cutting people sometimes close friends and family out of their lives. Try and see this as a positive step to moving yourself closer to wards what you want, not as an unthinkable thing to do. You’re taking this bold action to shed negativity from your life because you now understand that it doesn’t have a seat on your journey to success. It doesn’t mean that you’re any better or worse than they’re, it just means you have different paths to follow to the results you both want and it’s lowering your chances of getting what you want if they’re in the picture.
Pro’s & Con’s Of Finding The Right Inner Circle
- Inspire quality personal growth
- Help you to acquire your goals quicker
- Offer you constructive criticism and support
- You get to meet new and interesting people who understand you
- Can help you unlock a world you thought was not for you
- Mood, mindset boost’s from being around people who inspire you
- Unlock new levels of creativity from your mind due to having new conversations with other who have new perspectives for you to look through
- Having to have difficult conversations with those you choose to shed like close friends and family
- Some people aren’t as easily as accessible as you may like
- May feel isolated to begin with while re-building up your network
- The fear of not being accepted into a new circle after leaving your comfortable old one, aka safe zone
How Do You Find Your Inner Circle?
The easiest way to go about finding your new inner circle is by keeping it simple. What ever your goals are, get into a circle with those who have already achieved it. For example, if you want to run a 4 minute mile, find people who have already done it and eat, sleep and breathe what they do. You’ll achieve your 4 minute mile goal a lot quicker than you would if you just spent your time with Joe Bloggs the average runner.
If you want to make your first million, then guess what? Yep! You’ve got to get around millionaires and do exactly the same thing. Eat, sleep and breathe what they do because their results are a reflection of what repeated actions they’ve had to take to get that specific result that you want for yourself.
The best thing about all of this, is that there has never been a better time to be able to reach out to anyone on planet earth, than right now. We can send a DM or get a phone number at the tip of our fingers to break the ice with someone we’ve never met. This doesn’t mean spam anyone and everyone you can find just because they have what you want. Craft a message that intrigues that person into wanting to reply to find out more and potentially share a nugget of wisdom with you. This allowing you to move that bit closer to your end goal.
You become who you’re around most and your environment dictates your performance whether you like it or not. If you find yourself feeling uninspired, unmotivated and tired of life take a look at your inner circle and that will tell you everything you need to know.
Find the top 5 people in your new inner circle that already have what it is you want for your own life and get amongst them. Do exactly as they do and reap the same results in time to come. Remember what you put in, you get out, it’s not all sunshine and roses at the top. Don’t be put off by reaching out to people who’re out of your current circle. Be kind and courteous, explain why you’re asking for a nugget of wisdom from them and maybe they may help you. Most people love to help and share their successes with others so you never know what you might receive back.
Don’t be afraid to cut people out of your life, you’ve only got one to live and achieve what it is you desire most, the time is now.
Have a great week and I’ll see you inside Five Star Thoughts!
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100% if you are staying within your circle I.e work colleagues, family etc and not expanding your network it’s a lot harder to grow.
“If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room.”
Aim to surround yourself with people who will challenge you, people you can learn from and open your mind to a different way of life